How to develop or maintain a positive relationship with teenagers

Almost all parents go through the same types of situations with their children as their children grow up. First, it’s discussing your child’s nap schedules or feeding schedules. Then, it moves into what sports they will play, teachers, grades etc.  And finally, as they hit their teenage years, you find yourself asking, “Does your child do this too?!”

If your child gives you an attitude over small issues that never seemed to be a problem before or may refuse to do what you’ve asked….you now have a teenager!

If your child says, “you don’t get it” multiple times, mumbles things under their breath, or swears they never got a text you sent….you now have a teenager!

If your child slams the doors, screams, and may not be all that fun to live with….you now have a teenager!

Welcome to having a teenager! Now, how do you handle this?  Well, the first thing you want to do is try and maintain a positive relationship with your teenager just as you did when they were a child.  The following tips will help you stay on track to keeping that positive relationship.

5 Tips to Maintaining a Positive Relationship

  1. Listen more and talk less

Your teen sometimes just needs to vent and let things out. They are human just like us and having someone who will just listen to them with respect is very important.  Don’t judge them or interrupt them, just listen whether you agree or not. If you put up a wall, they won’t come to you, give them a chance to talk out their issues, this way they can problem-solve on their own.

  1. Always remain calm

If you get too stressed, nothing gets fixed. Take a moment to yourself if you cannot speak rationally with you teenager. Give each other some space, this way you do not say something you will regret.  Teenagers will test your patience through the years, and it your responsibility to keep the peace for that positive relationship!

  1. Respect their boundaries

In order to maintain that positive relationship, you need to develop a great sense of judgment and allow your child some more privacy. Your teen needs to make mistakes and learn from them, not have a parent get angry at them all the time.

  1. Give clear expectations

Teaching your teenager your family rules and consequences will allow them to truly understand what is expected of them. When they know your family’s core values, they will know to make better choices, and stop to think before they are faced with a difficult decision.

  1. You are the parent

As a parent, you are raising your teenager to become an independent, responsible adult. Mentoring your child along the way is much more important than being your child’s friend like some parents tend to want to do. They need you to be their moral compass; they need you to be their support system and their leader. They do not need another friend to hang out with.