How to Build a Positive Relationship with Your Child

Father and son holding hands walking down the road

Being a parent is definitely a tough job and the hardest job you will ever have.  Even though it is a tough job, it is the most rewarding each and every day. One of the most important parts about being a parent is building a solid relationship with your child. You want to forge a positive relationship from when they are little until they are adults. Yes, at times you will need to make difficult decisions that they may not like, but that should not cause your relationship to waiver.

If you follow these 8 steps, you will start down an amazing journey that builds a happy relationship with your child.

  1. Be Supportive of Your Child

Make sure to support your child whether they are right or wrong. You need to show them that no matter what, you are on their side and you are there for them through thick and thin, and will always make things better.

  1. Your Child Will Feel They are Your Best Friend, So Treat Them That Way

You should treat your child the way you would treat a friend. Be empathetic if they are upset, tell them not to worry. If they forget something at home, don’t get upset and add to the problem causing them stress, instead be understanding.  Think how you would react to a friend who left a phone at your house, what would you say to them? Make sure to comfort your child, this way they know they can rely on you instead of feeling hurt and pushed aside.

  1. Quantity is More Important than Quality

You always need to be present in your child’s life. This is one of the best ways to have a positive relationship with your child. Whether it is reading a book, playing doctor, cars, school, or building forts, just being with them is the best thing in the world for them.

  1. Always Be Your Child’s Cheerleader

Make sure your child knows they are worth something. Encourage them to take risks, set big goals, and teach them they can do anything they put their minds to. They will be able to achieve their dreams when they know they are special to someone and loved.

  1. Make Age-Appropriate Consequences

Children who are under nine years of age think very concretely and how things affect only themselves. Therefore, when you ask a child questions, make sure you ask using concrete language and terms. When you make the consequence, make sure it is something concrete that they can easily understand.

  1. Do Your Work Together

Starting at a very young age, you know your child likes to imitate everything you do, that’s why you spend most of their early stages of language development making sure you don’t slip using a bad word; they’ll repeat it! Use this imitation in a positive way by showing them how motivated you are to do your own work – cooking, washing dishes, cleaning, etc.  You can also take your office work and have them sit with you at the table and do their homework. Showing them what real work ethic looks like will make your child feel like they are just like you.

  1. Don’t Leave Your Child Behind

Always take your child away when you visit places. Not only will this help your child develop an understanding of different cultures and learn to socialize with other people, it will help them become more knowledgeable. Learning all of this new information and getting to enjoy these many experiences with you, is the key to building a positive relationship.

  1. Make Time for Special Outings without Siblings

Fitting in alone time with one of your children might be difficult, however, it is definitely very necessary.  It gives you time to catch up with your child, find out what they are up to, how they feel, and opens you up to them in case they need your help for something. Some children take a back seat if they have siblings and don’t always get the time they desire with their parents. Thus, make this a priority.

You will always be your child’s number one role model, the way you act, is the way they will learn. You are inadvertently teaching your child to be honest and reliable while proving that you are their number one fan, showing them you will be there for them no matter what. This foundation of trust helps them while they are growing up and on their own at school. You will always be your child’s best friend, and they will treat others the way they were treated.